If She Walks Like Drama and Talks Like Drama...
Updated: Aug 2
Have you ever heard that saying "you are what you eat?" Well, when it comes to your life, the people you surround yourself with is who you will become. Remember when your sister went off to her first semester of college in the south an came back for Christmas with that adorable southern accent? Yep, it's weird how it all works like that. We tend to pick up the actions and emotions that we surround ourselves with most. We worry about who our kids hang out with yet most of us ever question who we hang out with.
It may not seem like a big one but I promise you it is. How do you expect to open that bakery you've always wanted to or even just sit down and read for a half hour if your best friend has you on the live stream drama feed? Listen, this one is a tough one I get it. We can't help who we love, we want to support our friends and family and we want them to support us...but we have to support ourselves first and foremost. When you are surrounded by low energy and negativity, no matter how hard you try, it will bring you down too.
Im not telling you that you have to cut everyone off in one swoop although it may seem like an easier option looking backwards . It may not even be a matter of cutting people out but rather setting boundaries and enforcing them so that you have the space to grow. If your friends really are your friends they will respect these new boundaries and support you becoming who you want to be. If you suddenly realize how cold and pushed off they are because you ned to take some time for yourself, then I think you have your answer right there…and better late than never.
How often do you find yourself in uncomfortable conversations where you are talking about other others...really in any way other than gratitude and appreciation. People who are successful are supportive of others. People who are winning at life don't want to see others losing. It's really hard to be live a positive life in a negative environment. Maybe you started the conversation, maybe you didn't...it doesn’t matter. What matters is the energy you are giving and where you are giving it to.
Bottom line; if you want to have a happy life...you have to have a happy life. Stop making excuses for bad choices and bad behaviors whether it be yours or someone else's. Stop worrying so much about others; either what they are doing or what they think...all that you should be focusing on is what you're doing and how you can make your life better.